Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Harley DeLuca ~ Writing BDSM


Pleased to have Harley DeLuca on the blog today with her insights into writing about BDSM. 

Sex is a very beautiful affair between two people, even when it becomes mundane, sex is still very pleasurable. Now when you add in some BDSM and or “spice” it can become more than beautiful, it can turn into an explosion of your very own special Fourth of July.  Most people who I have talked to either asked or commented on why I have chosen to write a story based off of BDSM. My usual response is “why not?” There is a preconceived notion that BDSM is hardcore and that most of the “Dom’s” are egotistical men with power issues. Well not necessarily. There are also women in this “lifestyle” (and yes I use the term lifestyle loosely) that also have the same “I need to control every situation” mindset. I am here to tell you that most BDSM and the people who choose to participate in it are very sound in mind and body and do not use their “power” to actually control their partners.

In my story Mistress of Passion there are power struggles, but the struggles come from within the characters themselves. Rachel and Dominic use BDSM as a way to relieve and remove certain parts of their life that they either had no control over or refuse to let that control take their life over.  When I first started writing Mistress of Passion, I thought to myself “oh this is easy to write, no biggie.” Ha! I was oh so ever wrong. Though I did hold a small amount of knowledge about BDSM, I needed to know more. Even though BDSM is a physical act there are psychological reasons as to why BDSM is used. So with that theory in mind I looked at how my characters would use BDSM and the why of it.

In Rachel’s case she used the “pain” from her “tools” to expel her painful past. Rachel would frequently use her riding crop on herself (as well as other items) to remind her of not only the pain she felt enduring the torture of her past, but to also revel in the fact that now she, and she alone, had total control of her future. Never had it crossed her mind that she would actually be helping others reclaim their futures or help aid them in their exploration of certain vices many deem to be taboo.

Dominic on the other hand didn’t have a troubled past. No, it was the life he currently lived that was a huge detriment to his life now. Of course all of his “pain” was self-induced. Being a big shot lawyer brought on a whole new world of vices that could help remove himself from his own reality. Unjust actions that were used to help aid his clients were always paid with more than just money. Goodbye world of misery and heartache, hello world of numb, out of control substance abuse.

As there are no real right or wrong ways to write BDSM, there are however some “guidelines”, if you will, that I personally think everyone who writes in the BDSM genre should follow.  But most importantly there is mounds of research (if you don’t already participate in BDSM) that should be done before you just go off writing about something you do not fully understand. There are so many books that have BDSM qualities and are considered part of the BDSM genre. But to me personally they lack the emotion behind why BDSM is being used. The BDSM “craze” that is happening now in the literary world, I couldn’t be more than happy for. Not only does it help in making BDSM seem not so forbidden, it also helps people who never really understood why someone would use this form of “pain” to gain pleasure.  

Thank you so much for being my guest today. It's nice to see authors really taking the time to research a genre that can be very sorely abused if not understood. 

MISTRESS OF PASSION
Blurb:
In the realm of all things sexual, Rachel used her sexuality as a form of escape. She desperately tried to avoid her past to manipulate her future by delving into the dark recesses of all things kinky. With a fearful past, she turned her hurt, rage, confusion and unexplained passion into nothing but pure pleasure.  Being a Mistress came naturally for Rachel, she was good at being a Dom. Only one challenge stood in her way, would she able to accept her life the way it was now or was she secretly yearning for something more?

Dominic was your all around “grade-A” male. Had the job, the money, the title, but didn’t have the will to live, not until he walked into London Leather. Like most of the rich and famous he needed the escape of normality, needed to be reminded of who he was when he was stripped of everything. He had been stripped before but not like this. Would he be able to withstand all he was about to receive or would he have to resort back to his old ways and just pray for death?

About the Author:
With so many books to read and so many stories to write there is hardly enough time in the day to make up the perfect balance to get both accomplished! As she finished her first story for Hot Ink Press she felt victorious. She has been writing for fun-and for expression, for the past couple of years, but to now finally have something that will be produced for the whole world to read and enjoy is more than a goal she had set for herself-it was a MAJOR accomplishment.

Even though "life" had gotten in the way of her writing, she has recently come back to it so she can give her fans an excitement of pleasure they just can't put down. Now residing in Kansas City, she strives to top herself with each story she writes. Practice makes perfect is one of her mottos and one that she values only to make her next story better than the last.




7 comments:

  1. I'm intrigued by your book, Harley. I agree that BDSM definitely adds 'spice' to pleasurable sex.

    Hello, Krystal! *big wave*

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    1. *waving back* so glad you stopped in today!

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  2. Thank you so much Krystal for allowing me to write about a realm so misunderstood, but hyped so much! I really hope this blog post helps to bring a better understanding and more insight into the BDSM lifestyle.

    Kiru I think you will really enjoy Mistress of Passion! Feel free to leave your review after you have read it!

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    1. My pleasure. Anytime you want to come back, please give me a holler.

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  3. Hi Harley! *Waving* Krystal,

    Do you have any suggestions for good books to use as research? I just started reading this genre (have not read any of the Fifty's) and am curious. I'd like to write one some day and would like to do it justice.

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  4. Hello Ms Lyric! I sent you a message on Facebook because I just now got this reply to work! LOL I am sometimes Murphy when it comes to technology! If you have any more questions after you read the message please feel free to ask!

    Also anyone else who has questions that they would like answered please send me an email. Harley_deluca@yahoo.com

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    very very good idea that you had Than ks for sharing this blog post..I actually like the stuff..

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